At the end of the day, do you ever wonder and you feel like you haven’t accomplished anything? Girl, you are not alone! Been there. Done that.
The reason why might be you might be feeling because your priorities are out of alignment. Let’s get you back on track and start prioritizing your life!
What happens when don’t prioritize your life
When you don’t do things that fulfill you, things get chaotic and you feel like you’re not in control of your life.
I have felt that days and months have passed by and nothing in my life has progressed. I’ve wondered where time had gone.
It’s the worst feeling. Have you felt that way before?
The calendar test
Let’s take a look at your calendar. If you don’t track your life on the calendar, look back on the past few days.
What stands out to you? What did you like or didn’t like? What made you the happiest?
Asking these questions will tell you a lot. These are the things you need to add more or eliminate from your routine.
How to prioritize your life
Write a list of things that matter to you. Being aware of your non-negotiables is a way of self-care. Adding more things that matter to you, will help you live a more satisfied life.
Knowing your non-negotiables will help you determine what to add to your schedule. Here are a few ideas that are non-negotiables are:
- Exercising daily
- Having a clean space
- Connecting with your spouse
- Sleeping 8 hours a night
- Listening to energizing music
- Be positive
My list of non-negotiables are as followed:
- Meditation – Calming my mind and body to keep anxiety at bay
- Devotionals – Keeping the Word in my heart and mind at all times
- Prayer – Connecting with God
- Journaling – Jotting down what I’m grateful for
- Reading – Educating and learning is a must
What values are important are important to you? Knowing your values affects the way you live your life. According to this article, “Values guide our behavior, providing us with a personal code of conduct. When we honor our personal core values consistently, we experience fulfillment.”
In the book, Dare to Lead by Brene Brown talked about selecting one or two values that resonate with you. I did this exercise not too long ago and it has been helpful.
A list of values here or at the end of this blog post. Highlight as many words that speak to you. Then start narrowing down your top choices. It’s difficult to do this when you have over 10 words like I did!
I kept on tuning into my heart to decide whether the word I highlighted rings true to me. My top two are creativity and intuition.
Once you know your non-negotiables and values, start scheduling them on your calendar. Give yourself appointments to the things you love to do otherwise other people will run your schedule for you.
In my day, I typically do my non-negotiables on weekdays. I use an app called Done to track my progress.
As for my values, my creativity runs wild when it comes to my blog. I schedule time to write and learn about growing an online business. I also put on the calendar to connect with friends that are creative.
4. Be selective
Prioritizing your life is allowing good things to make you feel happier and more fulfilled. However, sometimes we’re asked to do certain things that we don’t like or dread.
When we feel like your energy is being pulled from the opposite direction, that’s when you have to say no.
Be selective and protective of your time.
One way to keep yourself on track is by getting an accountability partner. Having a person you trust to ask you daily, weekly or monthly will help you stick to your goals.
If you don’t have a person in mind, there are plenty of Facebook groups you can join to help be accountable. Another way is announcing it on your social media and check-in with your progress on a weekly or monthly basis.
- When you feel like life is getting out of control, it’s time to start prioritizing your life
- Look back on your calendar to see what brought you joy lately
- Find out your non-negotiables, values, and start scheduling them on your calendar
- Remember to be selective with what you put on your calendar
- Find an accountability partner to keep you motivated
Sometimes it can be easy to follow these steps and not really do them or get discouraged of the lengthy “things to do to make sure I’m happy.”
These are guidelines, not rules. These things are for your benefit. As always, take whatever’s useful to you and apply it to your life.
Keep yourself aligned to your purpose and the unique way you’ve been created.
- Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts by Brene Brown
- Your Best Year Ever: A 5-Step Plan for Achieving Your Most Important Goals by Michael Hyatt